Whether something is perfect or not depends on its structural feature; whether someone is handsome or beautiful depends on his/her life structure; if there is defect in its structure, the thing is bound to present morbidity, the person is bound to be ugly. We can know whether a man is sick by testing a cell of his body. Family is the cell in constituting the human society structure. We should have no way but think the family is carried with the congenital virus if the current human society is unsatisfactory.
Divorce rate is continually rising: a report of Chinese Academy of Social Sciences pointed out that the divorce rate of Beijing in 2002 was 50.90% with 76,136 pairs got married and 38,756 pairs divorced. In recent years, the divorce rate of U.S. always kept above 50%; the Western Europe countries all kept about 40%; Republic of Korea, Japan, Hong Kong and Taiwan all kept about 40%; Thailand was 60%. Then, how about the divorce rate of India? In the Bangalore, the silicon valley of India, Dutta, a female software engineer, said among her eighteen classmates there were five still unmarried, and in the rest thirteen married students, eight had divorced. "We see each other sometimes, and we think that it is fine to be alone."
If one member of a family has long-term illness or congenital disability or dies on the vine, all family members especially parents, sons, daughters and spouse will fall into sorrow and misfortune for their whole life. Many people are pressed almost out of breath by funeral and supporting their parents; many parents are tortured by the academic career of children, work, marriage and career; many people forfeit their independent personality and freedom after they get married. Marriage is just like a door, and once you step into it, this means that you have shut all the other doors; if your partner is eccentric in character, disturbed in mind, defective in physiology or ugly in soul, you can do nothing but to endure; all husbands are afraid that their wives cheat on them, similarly all wives are afraid that their husbands cheat on them too; as a result, all the married men and women will live in fear for their whole life in miserable and they all hope their partners are the flashlights which can only lighten himself or herself. The primary cause for the violence alternation of different dynasties lies in the "family first": if one receives a high position in the government, all his relatives and followers will get promotion after him; otherwise, if one commits a crime, the whole clan of him will be implicated; under the sky, all the territory belongs to the king; everyone including ministers and officials are all the servants of the king. There is a common phenomenon: if one wants to fish for benefits, one needs to break through the family members of prime minister, minister, stadholder and county magistrate, especially their spouse; in this way, these officials will secretly work for you and offer you with the power and benefits of their families in the scope of their authorities. Why did the malfeasants in different ages take place one after another? Why were they being endless greedy? Its primary cause is that they attach too much importance on their families, want to make their ancestors illustrious and want to establish an eternal lasting enterprise for their descendants. Without family, all these drawbacks will disappear automatically.